How often do we come across true love in ONE lifetime?
Once? Twice? Thrice… in ONE lifetime? How often does this happen?
What is true love?
For me, I think its falling in love with the intricacies of everyday life. The minutiae of delicate details. The regular pattern that one falls into and seeks solace. The acceptance that indeed, I can rest and fall back really just rest my tired soul. The stillness.
I think its when I made cucumber and cheese sandwiches for his lunch. I do remember wrapping them in aluminium carefully and hoping that he relished them. Even though he didn’t.. and ordered something else.
It was waiting for him to return back home after a long day at work even though I desperately counted the hours that were the longer than they seemed.
I ran to him and gave him a bear hug.. And listened to him narrate the happenings of his day with a soft smile radiating on my face, although I’d had a tormenting day. A day, wondering why I was there, what I was going to do-for the rest of my life… all those big questions.
It was waiting for him …looking outside the window for the sound of a car, a doorbell. Looking forward to the few hours we would spend together before he’d fall off to sleep..but the reassurance and comfort of sleeping on his strong shoulder was by far more satisfying for me to care. The knowledge that he cared for me was something I’d relax into and allow myself to appreciate and exist with- pushing aside and undermining all my fears.
So how often do these beautiful moments happen in ONE lifetime? How many times more will I have the opportunity to make cucumber and cheese sandwiches? To appreciate and experience that stillness? To rest on a strong shoulder? To wait for a doorbell and sit at the dinner table beaming from cheek to cheek?
Because every minute, moment was worth the while…
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Congratulations for a well-written post there.
Does love happen every minute, every hour, every month, year or a decade? Interesting. :-)
The more I think about it, I find it to be heavily subjective. Love itself is a subjective term, feeling, emotion or situation; as one might see it.
It also depends on how well the entities in love synchronise their priorities. God forbid, what if HE were to return home irritated as hell from a bad day at work. Would you still enjoy sharing the cheese and cucumber sandwiches just as much?
Now, before I'm branded a pessimist, let me put the record straight. Among the many factors that make love subjective is something that every individual posesses - Willpower. Even though everything else might be going against one in terms of love, a strong willpower quotient is enough to stem the negative tide. And if a person desires strongly for his/her love to keep giveing him/her that eternal happiness, nothing can stop that from happening.
In short, the frequency of those tender moments that you so nicely described, is upon you yourself to decide. You want it to occur everyday, go make it happen so.
All the best. :-)
:) Hello Mr. N,
The first part of your response made me slap myself on the head! 'Oh no, not another intellectual response to my spontaneous writings' Firstly, DONT THINK. Secondly dont intellectualise it.
The latter part of it is something I understand. Although, it is not always upto us to make that manifest. I used to think so..
Thank you for your comment.
Well...thinking and intellectualising is something I can't stop myself from doing...that's how the Almighty created me. If you find time, do visit my sparsely written blog and you'll know where I'm coming from. :-)
And I do agree that there will be times when it's not all up to us, but there's no harm in doing our best. On the contrary, IMO, giving it our best shot will absolve us from the inevitable guilt that is bound to crop up in failed attempts at achieving that blissful feeling.
On a sidenote...do I sense a touch of despair in the last few words of your reply to my comment (I used to think so..)?
Beautiful Thoughts... You are really good with words... Take Care..
the way u expressed it is too good! keep writing.
Indeed, Dear Mr. N, indeed.
You know...i was researching a bi about a concept called the FISH! philosophy and I came across this blog. It talked about things that one controls and things he can't. The writer displayed some annoying (to me) libertarian thoughts in their extremity and was referring to the people who choose to be happy in spite of adversities as "powerless". I said just one thing to him...
O God! Give me the strength to change the things I can. And the wisdom to understand the things I can't.
Then I wander on to your blog and I feel like saying exactly the same thing. Amusing...ain't it? :-)
Anyways..back to despair. You know...I've always known you to be someone with a cheerful disposition. And despair was one emotion I had never associated with you. No...I don't know you personally...but we've moved around in overlapping circles and we've crossed paths quite often.
Take care and god bless! :-)
Dear Mr. N,
You're quite right in 'knowing' me to not sulk in misery. :) I am somewhat the 'eternal optimist'.
I'm evolving.. like all of us.. and becoming aware that we, at times, undermine our own feelings, sweep them away as well, 'just feelings'. We let the logical take over.. maybe. we're too afraid, feel its not 'worth' dwelling over..
The truth, as I see it is, there lies alot of strength in exposing our vulnerabilties. Even in my darkest hour, I have the awareness that there's light.. that does not mean that I wont mourn, grieve, be real. I dont believe in sweeping the cobwebs under the carpets.. one day we do confeont them again.. if not untangled, if not given their due.
Hence, I'd like to conclude that 'delving in self-pity' , claiming ourselves as powerless isn't what's going on here at all. I'm 'being'.. and in full honesty. Not fast forwarding to another time when things will be better. Things are where they are- right here, right now. :)
When is your next post coming up? I'm waiting for it. :-)
This was such a dreamy depiction of love. Sigh!!!
once or twice... or for as many time we need.....
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=4qv3w3_UmVE
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